Horrifyingly, many girls said they believed that men cannot keep themselves from harassing or grabbing women, describing men as ‘unable to control their sexual desires.’ According to the report, ‘they perceived everyday harassment and abuse as normal male behavior, and as something to endure, ignore, or maneuver around.’ —
This is terrible: Study finds that teen girls see sexual violence as normal and unavoidable (via theweekmagazine)
They’re not wrong.
(Source: indiacollins, via cielrouge)
Barnard’s student elections fucking SUCK. I mean, everyone is probably thinking, “haha it’s just a college election they can’t do anything who cares, anyway?” But they can get stuff done. Across the street, Columbia’s student body government has been doing stuff like slowly but surely dismantling the school’s sexual adjudication policies and liberalizing its academic policies and pullings its communications system out of the dark age. The new Columbia College student VP of Policy’s past work is one of the reasons why actual NY politicians today are publicly criticizing sexual assault at Columbia.
Meanwhile, one of the Barnard candidates running for the university senator position (like she’ll be sitting in on meetings with the president of Columbia and faculty and etc.) says on her platform that she wants to help develop a university-wide survey. NEWFLASH IT ALREADY EXISTS LIKE DO YOU EVEN GO TO THIS SCHOOL?
Also, like 90% of candidates make vague references to sexual violence adjudication in lieu of having any, you know, real talking points or a comprehensive platform. I’ve only gone to about half of the anti-sexual violence coalition meetings this semester, but I sincerely doubt they’ve been within 50 feet of them any time.
“addressed the stress culture by promoting mental health awareness through programming such as week-long study breaks that offered free food for students during finals”
l. o. l.
Game of Thrones Purple Wedding Edition, Veep, Mad Men premiere. This is the best Sunday night of television ever.
In social justice, there’s this absurd meme (that I’ve been guilty of myself) is that we are the “voice for the voiceless,” but that’s not right. The oppressed are not voiceless – they’re just not being listened to. —
Dianna Anderson, of Be the Change, at Rachel Held Evans’ “Ask a Feminist” (via emm-in-sem)
Wooo, I like this.
Perfect quote is perfect.
Gonna print this out and stick it on my mirror. Keep that shit in check.
Or that one is “GIVING” a voice to a marginalized person. Which is very problematic as well. Having a voice is different to not being heard.
(Source: dandelionbreaks, via newwavefeminism)
Such highs and lows for today. On one hand I got to exchange thoughts with both friends and strangers on the challenges of kindness when your friends/family are mentally unwell or lashing out on you. We had tomato soup and grilled cheese.
On the other hand I had to skip class to cover a 1-hour event for someone in my e-board who bailed 5 minutes before her shift because apparently it was way more important for her to go to Barnard’s Spirit Week free lunch. Yeah, priorities. I was virtually begging her over the phone to come because no one else could do it. “I’m sorry,” she said. “I’m such a bad person. But I’m graduating and I really want to go to this, you know?”
"I’M GRADUATING, TOO," I nearly screamed. "But you signed up for this and I really think you should honor your commitment. We don’t have time to find anyone else." She said she would consider it. About two minutes after her shift was supposed to start, she called me. "I’m at Spirit Week and I’m not coming. This is horrible. Can I make this up to you?"
Just thinking about this makes me want to pass out from too much incoherent I-CAN’T-EVEN
A wise person knows when and how to make the exception to every rule… A wise person knows how to improvise… Real-world problems are often ambiguous and ill-defined and the context is always changing. A wise person is like a jazz musician — using the notes on the page, but dancing around them, inventing combinations that are appropriate for the situation and the people at hand. A wise person knows how to use these moral skills in the service of the right aims. To serve other people, not to manipulate other people. And finally, perhaps most important, a wise person is made, not born. Wisdom depends on experience, and not just any experience. You need the time to get to know the people that you’re serving. You need permission to be allowed to improvise, try new things, occasionally to fail and to learn from your failures. And you need to be mentored by wise teachers. —
Legendary psychologist Barry Schwartz, author of the enormously stimulating Practical Wisdom: The Right Way to Do the Right Thing, on our loss of wisdom.
Yale Student Says University Forced Her to Gain Weight -
A 92-pound Yale history major says the university’s health center told her she needed to gain weight or take a leave of absence from school. She’s spent the past 6 months trying to put on pounds for her weekly weigh-ins.
My school’s primary health care services recently tried to force a girl I know to undergo diabetic testing because she had an overweight BMI. I’ll admit that I don’t know everything about this subject, but BMI ISN’T the end-all be-all indicator of health or fitness, only a jumping off point. I’m surprised that health care professionals don’t realize the importance of taking both individual and family history into account. I’ve had an underweight BMI my entire life and probably will until I have children. The women in my family were the same.
Not sure if my FB friend took this from somewhere or made it up but either way it’s awesome