we as a society need to start talking about abusive friendships, bc those exist and seem to be really common
and most people in them dont know how do deal w the abuse bc its normally emotional abuse which.gets delegitimized, and its a platonic relationship and not a romo or sexual one, so it gets delegitimized for that too
I think one of the reasons the Harry Potter Epilogue was so poorly received was because the audience was primarily made up of the Millennial generation.
We’ve walked with Harry, Ron and Hermione, through a world that we thought was great but slowly revealed itself to be the opposite. We unpeeled the layers of corruption within the government, we saw cruelty against minorities grow in the past decades, and had media attack us and had teachers tell us that we ‘must not tell lies’. We got angry and frustrated and, like Harry, Ron and Hermione, had to think of a way to fight back. And them winning? That would have been enough to give us hope and leave us satisfied.
But instead. There was skip scene. And suddenly they were all over 30 and happy with their 2.5 children.
And the Millennials were left flailing in the dust.
Because while we recognised and empathised with everything up to that point. But seeing the Golden Trio financially stable and content and married? That was not something our generation could recognise. Because we have no idea if we’re ever going to be able to reach that stage. Not with the world we’re living in right now.
Having Harry, Ron and Hermione stare off into the distance after the battle and wonder about what the future might be would have stuck with us. Hell, have them move into a shitty flat together and try and sort out their lives would have. Have them with screaming nightmares and failed relationships and trying to get jobs in a society that’s falling apart would have. Have them still trying to fix things in that society would have. Because we known Voldemort was just a symptom of the disease of prejudice the Wizarding World.
But don’t push us off with an ‘all was well’. In a world about magic, JK Rowling finally broke our suspension of disbelief by having them all hit middle-class and middle-age contentment and expecting a fanbase of teenagers to accept it.
Also. Since when was ‘don’t worry kids, you’re going to turn out just like your parents’ ever a happy ending? Does our generation even recognise marriage and money and jobs as the fulfillment of life anymore? Does our generation even recognise the Epilogue’s Golden Trio anymore?
1. It seems kind of unreasonable to expect her to write a book about our future economic struggles when the last book came out like, a year before the global recession hit.
2. It is the most millennial thing you can do (in accordance to stereotypical perceptions of us) to state things like “Our generation watched cruelty against minorities grow” (yeah, racism was definitely better in the 80s!) and other absurdities that imply that political corruption and classicism and whatever are uniquely understood by our generation. Also, the books are rife with allusions and parallels to 20th-century fascism and you know what the real-life generation did after winning a couple wars and surviving the threat of total annihilation? Moved to the suburbs and had lots of babies.
Pro-tip: If you know for a fact that a friend really needs help but are confused as to why they declined your offer of help, it’s probably because they don’t actually believe that you’re willing to go through with your offer or stay aboard once it’s clear that it’ll require more than a modicum of your time or resources. Just try to do something anyway.
"I live in two worlds, one is a world of books." According to Australian writer Patrick Lenton , these are all the books that were mentioned in the entire Gilmore Girls series.
Yo, Gilmore Girls was a great source of cultural capital as a teenager. I had never heard of half the movies they riffed on, and I was a cautious reader who stuck to mostly Penguin classics. It was actually through Gilmore Girls that I met my high school literary angst soulmate, Franny and Zooey.
“Your brain is wired for survival, not happiness. That is why it keeps bringing up negative emotions, past mistakes and worries about the future. Because of this wiring, you can get stuck in repetitive cycles of self-criticism, worry and fear that interfere with your ability to enjoy the present moment.”—Why anxiety is so hard to manage (via tywin)
Finally got a state ID so I no longer have to drag my passport to bars. You know, it’s pretty amazing that I managed to not lose my passport despite a year and a half of getting wildly, inexcusably drunk with it, whereas I’ve gone through two missing phones (sober) in the last 10 months.
“The Buddhists say if you meet somebody and your heart pounds, your hands shake, your knees go weak, that’s not the one. When you meet your ‘soul mate’ you’ll feel calm. No anxiety, no agitation.”—Monica Drake, Clown Girl (via larmoyante)
Canvassing is technically one of the top worst things every invented, for both people who are canvassed and for the canvassers themselves, but somehow I love it. I’m not that great at it—no one would ever pay me to do it—and yet there’s a solid rush that comes with getting out of your own skin to play responsible citizen and getting people to vote. It’s especially exhilarating for a socially nervous and physically constrained person as myself to plunge recklessly into that civic state of mind, banging on doors, walking up to random people on the street, and basically demanding that people pay attention to you. This is what acting and theatre performance must be like, stepping into another skin for what feels irredeemably silly and strangely noble at the same time.
“I was not a violent child. But if my mother had, at any point during the ages of 5 and 12, picked up a knife or any other weapon against my father, I would have held her hand as she did it. I would have locked the door while she carried it out. That’s how bad it was to be growing up inside a violent household.” -Patrick Stewart
Chad Griffin, president of the Human Rights Campaign, gave a powerful, almost shocking keynote speech at the Southern Comfort Conference in Atlanta this week. In the speech, he apologized for the organization’s past mistreatment of transgender people.
Griffin also announced HRC’s renewed commitment to trans equality, including a fully inclusive antidiscrimination bill, tackling antitrans violence, pushing for equal bathroom and public accommodations access, and opposing the “womyn-born-womyn” policy at the Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival.
The link above includes the full speech, but here’s an excerpt:
So I am here today, at Southern Comfort, to deliver a message. I deliver it on behalf of HRC, and I say it here in the hopes that it will eventually be heard by everyone who is willing to hear it.
HRC has done wrong by the transgender community in the past, and I am here to formally apologize.
I am sorry for the times when we stood apart when we should have been standing together.
Even more than that, I am sorry for the times you have been underrepresented or unrepresented by this organization.
What happens to trans people is absolutely central to the LGBT struggle. And as the nation’s largest LGBT civil rights organization, HRC has a responsibility to do that struggle justice, or else we are failing at our fundamental mission.
I came here today in the hopes that we can begin a new chapter together. But I also came here to tell you the truth. We’re an organization that is evolving. We may make mistakes. We may stumble. But what we do promise is to work with you sincerely, diligently, with a grand sense of urgency, listening and learning every step of the way.
And I also want to be clear that I’m not asking you to be the ones to take the first leap of faith. That’s our job. My mom taught me that respect isn’t given, it’s earned.
When you are 13 years old, the heat will be turned up too high and the stars will not be in your favor. You will hide behind a bookcase with your family and everything left behind. You will pour an ocean into a diary. When they find you, you will be nothing but a spark above a burning bush, still, tell them Despite everything, I really believe people are good at heart.
When you are 14, a voice will call you to greatness. When the doubters call you crazy, do not listen. They don’t know the sound of their own God’s whisper. Use your armor, use your sword, use your two good hands. Do not let their doubting drown out the sound of your own heartbeat. You are the Maid of Untamed Patriotism. Born to lead armies into victory and unite a nation like a broken heart.
When you are 15, you will be punished for learning too proudly. A man will climb onto your school bus and insist your sisters name you enemy. When you do not hide, he will point his gun at your temple and fire three times. Three years later, in an ocean of words, with no apologies, you will stand before the leaders of the world and tell them your country is burning.
When you are 16 years old, you will invent science fiction. The story of a man named Frankenstein and his creation. Soon after you will learn that little girls with big ideas are more terrifying than monsters, but don’t worry. You will be remembered long after they have put down their torches.
When you are 17 years old, you will strike out Babe Ruth and Lou Gehrig one right after the other. Men will be afraid of the lightening in your fingertips. A few days later you will be fired from the major leagues because “Girls are too delicate to play baseball”
You will turn 18 with a baby on your back leading Lewis and Clark across North America.
You will turn 18 and become queen of the Nile.
You will turn 18 and bring justice to journalism.
You are now 18, standing on the precipice, trembling before your own greatness.
This is your call to leap.
There will always being those who say you are too young and delicate to make anything happen for yourself. They don’t see the part of you that smolders. Don’t let their doubting drown out the sound of your own heartbeat.
You are the first drop of a hurricane. Your bravery builds beyond you. You are needed by all the little girls still living in secret, writing oceans made of monsters and throwing like lightening.
You don’t need to grow up to find greatness. You are stronger than the world has ever believed you to be. The world laid out before you to set on fire. All you have to do is burn.
The nitpicker in me has to point out that Mary Shelley was turning 19 years old when she came up with the concept for Frankenstein (yea she was a 19-year-old genius instead of a 16-year-old genius whoops what a scandal) but this is pretty lovely.
I aint ever tagging shit as NSFW bitch you at work get the fuck off tumblr and earn that skrilla I aint sensoring the bootyass and tiddybreasts I reblog cause you wanna not be a productive member of your team
Barnard students and campus leaders are hopeful that Mount Holyoke College’s adoption of a formal policy for admitting transgender students will be a model for Barnard administrators to follow.
The article could have spoken more to the fact that these policies are explicitly addressing the inclusion of trans women/dmab trans folks, but, like, yay!
Someone on my FB feed brought up a really interesting question the other day: a significant minority of the students who attend Barnard do so because they come from conservative religious families who object to them going to co-ed schools, and don’t want them mingling with boys in dorms and classes. (Most Barnard classes are open to Columbia students, but they’re still predominantly female.) An admissions policy that follows Dean Spade’s suggestion that women’s colleges should be a space for all politically oppressed genders, including trans men and gender-nonconforming people, would complicate Barnard’s sell to these families considerably. Although, seriously, I don’t see how these families don’t already have a problem with their daughters attending school with queer women and the students who begin transitioning/identifying as genderqueer after entering college.
The Spade thing is purely hypothetical since Barnard’s probably not going to make any alterations to its admissions policy that are more drastic than Mount Holyoke’s any time soon. The support they would receive for adopting Dean Spade’s scheme would not offset the $$$ they rake in from the orthodox religious constituency, and Barnard is so very poor and so very much in need of hard cash right now. And, oh yeah, we’re still pretty much corporate feminists.
Columbia and Barnard folks on Tumblr—a friend of a friend is coordinating an effort to help Emma Sulkowicz, CC ‘15, carry out her senior thesis performance, the goal of which is to carry around her dorm mattress as long as she attends the same school her rapist does. Please consider signing up and/or signal boosting this if you think you might have any CU/BC followers of your own!
New York progressives have recently felt emboldened to challenge centrist Democrats in primary elections. In New York City, Mayor Bill de Blasio, Public Advocate Letitia James, and City Council Speaker Melissa Mark-Viverito all swept into office after handily defeating their more conservative opponents. Their success led, in part, to the rise of Zephyr Teachout, a Fordham law professor, Yale graduate, and formidable primary challenger to Andrew Cuomo. Teachout’s running mate, Tim Wu, is a law professor at Columbia and a fellow at the New America Foundation.
Teachout and Wu are not perennial “activist” candidates. They have the expertise and experience to lead New York State into an era of reform. Their chances of victory are not outstanding. Indeed, a primary victory over Andrew Cuomo would perhaps be as unexpected as Eric Cantor’s ouster. But every vote cast for Teachout and Wu serves as a warning to the governor and to the Democratic Party that habitually disappointing Democrats will no longer be tolerated.
There are many things that Andrew Cuomo has done or failed to do, both as governor and as a gubernatorial candidate, that should discourage New York Democrats from supporting his re-election. Depending on one’s priorities, some of his trespasses may seem more distressing than others. The following is an incomplete (but hopefully sufficient) list of reasons why Cuomo is undeserving of another term as governor.
1. He failed to support a Democratic majority in the state Senate in 2012.
4. He has refused, thus far, to debate his primary challenger.
A debate with Cuomo would legitimize Teachout’s candidacy, publicize her agenda, and further expose Cuomo’s weaknesses on progressive issues. As a result, Cuomo is understandably uneager to share a stage with her. He clearly perceives her as a threat to the resounding, unchallenged re-election victory he craves. If Cuomo were confident in his chances for re-election (as he should be) and if he genuinely valued the democratic process, he should have no objections to debating Teachout.
5. He twice attempted to get his primary challenger tossed off the ballot.
Cuomo’s legal team alleged that Teachout hadn’t been a New York resident for 5 years, which is a necessary condition for running for governor. Repeated attempts to kick her off the ballot failed. There’s no reason why someone who values the democratic process should be so intent on destroying his only notable primary challenger.
6. He has never taken a firm stance on fracking, despite repeatedly promising to do so.
An official decision on whether or not to allow fracking in New York was supposed to be made in the spring of 2012. That didn’t happen. In February of 2013 a decision was expected. That didn’t happen. In May of 2013, Cuomo said a decision would arrive “in the next several weeks.” That didn’t happen. Then Cuomo said he’d make a decision before this year’s election. That hasn’t happened. Last anyone heard, a decision won’t be made until April of 2015. Fed up with the governor’s dithering, the Sierra Club endorsed Teachout.
7. He interfered with a supposedly “independent” commission tasked with investigating public corruption.
The list of Cuomo’s faults could continue. His conservative tax policies, his plan to litter upstate New York with casinos, and his unbridled enthusiasm for charter schools are all causes for concern. Teachout and Wu are untested as politicians but Cuomo has been thoroughly tested with disastrous results. A bold change in New York’s political landscape has already occurred in many of its cities. A genuinely progressive governor, coupled with a Democratic majority in the state senate, could usher in a progressive era of reform unseen since the days of Theodore Roosevelt. Such a reality is within grasp, but only if New York’s Democrats boldly select Zephyr Teachout as their next governor.
Primary is on September 9th. For those of you registered in New York, vote for Zephyr Teachout in the election. We can do better than Cuomo.
Also, google Cuomo’s running mate Kathy Hochul, who is a piece of work. She once suggested that undocumented immigrants be allowed to register for drivers’ licenses so they could then be caught and deported.
(Teachout’s running mate Tim Wu, on the other hand, coined the term “net neutrality” and would be the first ever Asian-American lieutenant governor of New York.)